Avoid 3 Cs

How often do we deflect something wrong onto others? Quite often. We simply don’t retain an account when we point our fingers at others. In spite of knowing that we are three times more wrong than the person we are pointing at. Worse, we don’t even leave God by pointing our thumb at him. Try yourself now and see the consequence. The question is not whether it’s good or bad, but is it really important and necessary to do that? We all know the answer which is and will forever remain a big no. However, we get along. Why? Self-defense is the answer and we simply don’t think much about it when we actually execute the act. This in fact is, our spontaneous reaction to any given action where the incrimination is focused on us. That’s natural for every human, but now we need to change the way is has been acquitted.

To start with we must never do three Cs ever in our life and they are condemn, complain and criticize. These are the things that hold us back and cause us to lose our true worth as a human. If these are what we get back in return how would we feel? Think and think deeply with a vow not to repeat the same ever.

Why to condemn when we can appreciate and create a pleasant atmosphere for us to live in concord. We all know that every human is born with some limitations, that’s a given and we are no exception. But that’s not where we should apply our focus, instead we must look at the positive aspects of every individual and acknowledge them. How do we feel when someone appreciates us? The moment we receive appreciation our self-esteem and confidence level touch the summit. That’s what exactly happen with others as well. To bring out the dirt is easy, but to cleanse it off is difficult. When people start slinging verbal dirt at one another it get settled down deep inside the heart and either it, take the time to wipe off or never happens. And from this dirt arise conflict and dislike which are not at all good for us to be in. Hence, focus on the sun and not the finger pointing at it. The world today is starving – starving for appreciation

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We always take the advantage of slightest opportunity in complaining people. It seems as if every wrong happens for others and every good for self. Complaining is no more a way to express our dissatisfaction, but a medium to let the other person down. There might be a point of disagreement and that’s natural, but that should never take the form of complaining. This is a disease that ruins humanity and constantly brings out ill fate. We cannot achieve anything great in life just by complaining someone or something because of the results which might not be in our favour. After all, nobody is liable to us, saving us. Next time we complain, we need to think of the cause and the solution it has and do accordingly. Looking out for good in every direction, action and people will invariable bring out the best, the one we always are in search for. Instead of complaining we should try our best to bring out the solution it carries. Encouraging people on every little achievement will bring out the positive quality and increase the overall productivity. Therefore, we must never complain, but stick to the solutions.

Criticism for many is a mode of entertainment and people feel satisfied by criticizing others. But in reality what they did is they have simply proved their character. I strongly believe that a needle must never laugh by taking in the number of holes in fishnet, because the needle itself have one. Similarly, when you enjoy finding faults in others make sure you have counted yours. Criticism by far is a way to disrupt the progressive character of an individual and hence it’s not an encouraging act to perform. We cannot achieve success just by doing what is not the right thing to do, i.e. criticizing others. Stop before it destroys relationship, trust, goodwill and faith.

To overcome these unwanted acts which bear no positivity in return need to be riveted towards the positive three Cs that will boost the confidence we want to bring about. They are compliment, compassion and cooperation. The best tool to motivate and teach people is a sincere compliment. The point to be noted here is that we all appreciate recognition and today, it’s our turn to do that onto others. So, focus on helping people to be, do and have more than they can possibly conceive of. Once we do that without putting in any questions or conditions, we are sure to acquire what we desire from life.  

Have a wonderful and excited day! You know what is expected from you and what you need to do…… 

Effective Leadership

We are always in the quest for effective leadership. Leadership that will not alone guide us, but bring out the best we possess within ourselves. To find a leader is not a big challenge, but to get an effective and efficient one is really a tedious job. Tedious because people are more focused on bringing out the best in others only to satisfy their wants and desires. As I have mentioned in one of my blog title ‘Leadership and you’, that leadership is not about ruling people but winning hearts. Yes, making people get what they want and guiding them in doing that is the utmost quality of an effective leadership. An effective leader manages themselves as well as the people they work with so that at the end, both gets the benefit out of each other’s presence.

Remember, people will only follow or love to get associated with those leaders who create them manage things that are intended to lift up their confidence, self-image, trust and above all productivity. Every person has a purpose of doing work and nobody wishes to serve something for others first – that’s the human mentality. Respecting that will eventually make you a much sort out leader within your organization. Does that mean as a leader we have to leave work for others to decide? Absolutely not. As a leader we are responsible to look upon the smooth functioning of any given task. Instead of directing and ordering people to do what we require them to get along, we necessitate to prepare our people see the grandness of the assigned work and then let them know what they will gain upon finishing the given work. The gain always not need to be monetary.

To become an effective leader you need to follow 3 key points that will surely place you at the helm of being a successful leader adored by all. A leader people will remember for the rest of their life.

GOAL SETTING – Determining goals for your team is an essential function and as a leader you need to put that right before the commencement of any given task. But here the most important fact is that the goal must be agreed upon between the leader and his team. Every goal needs to be developed further into small manageable one so that the task gets done without facing any challenges. The goal should be distinguishable and revised frequently so that the team knows what is expected from them. The goals serve the team know what performance is expected and how well to execute them. It creates a sense of responsibility within the team and progress the workload easy and fast. Productivity is all that we expect and following it in an organized way is what an effective leader looks for.

ENCOURAGEMENT – A noted leader informs his team in good order at the outset of any given task how he will let them know about their progress. Encouraging the team frequently on every positive outbreak is another key to effective leadership. Another remarkable point about effective leadership is telling people what they did right instantly and specifically. This should not be meant to please someone, but to be conveyed genuinely. Along with this he will let his team know about his feelings on every result, whether it’s praiseworthy or under performance and how this will affect the development and productivity of the team and the system as well, and at the same time he will also allow his team to feel the way he felt. This will bring out the unity, integrity and genuineness towards the team and will help them to perform their best in the future projects. An effective leader doesn’t just holds back here, but he encourages his team to do more of the kind when opportunity arrives. Lastly, he contributes a touch therapy in form of patting shoulder or a handshake to his team members as a mark of praise and acknowledgement to their respective success. The important point to be noted here is that the touch of encouragement should be honest and genuine without the discomfort of the other person. Else this will produce a negative effect filled with uneasiness and poor performance.

REFLECTION – A person should always be judged by his worth and not his performance. On any given day he might fail to live up to the expectation, but that doesn't mean he is no more a worthy person. He is, and that’s what an effective leader will focus on. A noted leader will always act like a mirror to his team and reflect them their deeds in both right and wrong ways. The leader will always let them know if things go wrong and that too in a specific way, so that the same might not happen again. He will also rebuke his team on their poor performance, but not to the performer – the key to an effective leadership. Reflecting the cause will make things clear with no ill feelings and that’s how a leader should behave in order to maintain the decorum within the team. Not only that, a leader will also act like a mirror to let his team know how much he values each one of them and his assessment is constantly focused on their execution rather than on the individual. Once done, it’s over and over for good.

Now it’s your time to demonstrate to your team and the masses that they can rely on you as an efficient leader. Go out there and prove to yourself that you have it in you to become what people are looking for – effective leadership. You are almost there and all you need is to proceed with the right intention without ever manipulating people in any given task. Have your team know that you are there for them and not for you.

Have a wonderful and a great day ahead! Effective leadership is what people are looking for…….

Are you listening?

From infancy to adulthood you are programmed to keep focused on practicing what your family has been doing or to fetch a job and take root. What you do and how you behave are related to your self-impose occupation security. You frequently come across words that are repeatedly used, but bear no significance like, comfort, impossible, average, entertainment, content and easy going to name some. These are the words used by people who are confounded with their life. They relate their success and achievement with things like, house, car, money, luxury, etc. There is nothing harm in doing that, but the problem is, people belong to mediocrity and with low self-image do that. Thus, this happens to be a mass procedure rather than a classy one. After all, success is not holding out within a comfort zone, nor to associate it with materialistic gain. Success is by far living the life you love to live when left alone. To tell you the truth you don’t belong to mediocrity, instead you are a born legend just waiting to prove to this world about your existence. And in doing that your age, economic status, gender, qualification and where you belong have nothing to do with your success. Just believe in yourself and move ahead in life. Confused? Don’t be.

Just think for a moment, do you desire to achieve things you already possess or are you prepared to conquer more in life. More in life, right? Then, how can you achieve more in life just by being in the place you are in today? To achieve what you desire, you need to get yourself out of mediocrity. And in doing that you will eventually guide yourself to the track through which legends have already walked past. This will be possible if you bring out the hidden maestro and make him practice what he is best at. The maestro who is responsible for making you a legend. Now the question is who is that maestro? He is none but you. Yes, simply endure in front of a mirror and see the maestro yourself.

I always envy people who don’t bring out the best they possess and make a difference for self and to this world. And if you are one of them, then I am sorry to say, ‘I envy you too.’ You are a winner and God has sent you with a mission to accomplish. Don’t quit till you breathe. Only a man without a shadow can make excuses not you. You are too good to sit along the failure bench and cry for luck. After all luck is nothing more than, ‘Labor Under Correct Knowledge.’ Gather knowledge, work hard towards your goal and march in concert to the melody of your victory.

Life is tough that’s a given. Whenever you want to stand up you will be pushed back. You fall, cry, feel the pain, lose your rhythm, land square on your face, stumble and feel like throwing up. But every time that happens, you get back on your feet and move faster than before. And it really doesn't matter how many times you repeatedly need to perform it. Success is defined as getting up one more time than you have been bumped down. Remember, nothing is free and easy. You might fail more than you win but that shouldn’t stop you into doing something you always desired to make out, achieving something you constantly desired to achieve and winning with your head held high. You need to energize your mind and body to overcome all the difficulties, drawbacks and failures that life always puts right in front of you. If you want more than you have now and you perpetually wanted to get better out of life than go out there and get it. The moment you discover the place you wanted to be, you must not stop until you get there. This is the purpose of your existence. This is the reason why God has sent you.

Finally, you want success without any doubt and you will, there is no silver lining about that. So, move faster, dream bigger and live better than you are at present. Everything is within you, just prove it.

Have a wonderful day! Take heed to the tune of your triumph…….